I'd like to think I'm that bit more calm & collected. Calmer maybe not, collected yes (along with a better poker face). So the gent brought me along for his 'Army Intelligence Family Day' thingamajig & we were laughing over crusted sugar syrupy popcorn about how certain things were done. Made a deliberate attempt to engage someone in conversation, which the gent immediately noticed. He texted me to say he was very proud of me for doing so. Which made me realize that, we've have quite a different sense of each other now– knowing habits, common behavior in certain situations. Veering off character/ making conscious effort is that much more obvious & appreciated.
& when I got mildly bothered by his aloof and distracted disposition (due to not being able to fix his recording interface). It didn't escalate into a full blown cold war. Deep breaths, reminding myself of the way he processes things (the whole notion of intps living in their heads, esp when they are solving things), him asking if I was fine, getting over it. Back to usual self within 15minutes, without breathing a word about being perturbed. Quite a feat, really. & yes, was duly smothered with rainbows & hugs when he managed to fix the interface (score).
We're not in perfect harmony yet (still much to learn), but we did take our fair share of squabbles, tears & "I'm sorry."s to get thus far. & as we've learned– it's the small things that matter (because when unattended to, they morph into giant monsters).
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